What ever happened?

[Crickett]

I'm curious, what ever happened to manners? You know, just a simple "thanks". I'm very grateful for all the help I've received over the time on this forum and when asked a question by private message I always reply. Just a simple acknowledgement for the time I took to answer would be nice.

 

[seamus7227]

Thanks Marla!!!! For all that you have done for me!

OH!!! And Congrats once again on graduating!!!

 

[Crickett]

Thanks Marla!!!! For all that you have done for me!

OH!!! And Congrats once again on graduating!!!

<LOL> Seamus, I'm not referring to you, but you're welcome and thank you for all that you've done for me!! :wink:

I'm sure you've received PMs as well people asking all sorts of questions, some you are open and willing to answer, others ... not so much. Just a "thanks" is always nice.

 

[seamus7227]

Thanks Marla!!!! For all that you have done for me!

OH!!! And Congrats once again on graduating!!!

<LOL> Seamus, I'm not referring to you, but you're welcome and thank you for all that you've done for me!! :wink:

I'm sure you've received PMs as well people asking all sorts of questions, some you are open and willing to answer, others ... not so much. Just a "thanks" is always nice.

I agree!

 

[avbill]

People need to start treating people like they want to be treated. that's just common sense !

 

[stonepecker]

It also leaves the question of how these people were raised. Please realize that with the computers and internet.....Some people believe they are invisible. That is why some people think they can get away with rude or insulting e-mails to others.

A simple THANK YOU never hurt anyone.

 

[Ed McDonnell]

Most people I've responded to with private messaging have been quick to express their appreciation for the answers I provided. But there are a few who never acknowledged the answers I sent them (leaving me wondering if they got my response or appreciated it). These same nonresponsive few seem really nice in their forum postings and they seem quick to thank people for responding to their forum posts.

I wonder if it is because of the private messaging system? Some people may feel that private messaging is an intrusion on your personal time when they send a private message. The fear of bothering you with an additional message may keep them from sending a "thank you" message.

Or maybe it's something else....

Ed

 

[Displaced Canadian]

I partly blame texting because a fair number of people that text can't even be bothered to use correct spelling and punctuation so manners doesn't stand a chance. I also agree that the computer does add a barrier to the whole thing when in person thank you and you're welcome takes a second and online it can take 3 days.

 

[dogcatcher]

I partly blame texting because a fair number of people that text can't even be bothered to use correct spelling and punctuation so manners doesn't stand a chance. I also agree that the computer does add a barrier to the whole thing when in person thank you and you're welcome takes a second and online it can take 3 days.

With texting there is no personal contact, just machine to machine. If you text me, I delete them, I don't read them, refuse to. I have had people finally call me and ask about the text they sent. I say what text? My phone, my rules, like it or find someone else to send the text to, see if the can answer for me.

 

[Crickett]

People need to start treating people like they want to be treated. that's just common sense !

I totally agree with you.

It also leaves the question of how these people were raised. Please realize that with the computers and internet.....Some people believe they are invisible. That is why some people think they can get away with rude or insulting e-mails to others.

A simple THANK YOU never hurt anyone.

At some point people have to take responsibility for themselves and stop blaming their parents. I have siblings, we were all raised the same but some prefer not to say thank you because they feel entitled.

 

[Crickett]

I partly blame texting because a fair number of people that text can't even be bothered to use correct spelling and punctuation so manners doesn't stand a chance. I also agree that the computer does add a barrier to the whole thing when in person thank you and you're welcome takes a second and online it can take 3 days.

I'm one of the few that actually use proper English and correct spelling in my text messages, I figure if someone else reads them I don't want them to think I'm uneducated. :biggrin:

 

[r1237h]

I'm curious, what ever happened to manners? You know, just a simple "thanks". I'm very grateful for all the help I've received over the time on this forum and when asked a question by private message I always reply. Just a simple acknowledgement for the time I took to answer would be nice.

Hmm, just checked my e-mails to verify, but I did say thanks for all the help. But let me say thanks in advance for the answers to future questions I will no doubt ask. :biggrin:

You graduated? Congratulations!

 

[Crickett]

I'm curious, what ever happened to manners? You know, just a simple "thanks". I'm very grateful for all the help I've received over the time on this forum and when asked a question by private message I always reply. Just a simple acknowledgement for the time I took to answer would be nice.

Hmm, just checked my e-mails to verify, but I did say thanks for all the help. But let me say thanks in advance for the answers to future questions I will no doubt ask. :biggrin:

You graduated? Congratulations!

Thanks! I went back to school and took nursing. I'm a practical nurse, I think in the US I would be a vocational nurse.

 

[Russianwolf]

Thanks for being inspiring.

 

[Haynie]

I partly blame texting because a fair number of people that text can't even be bothered to use correct spelling and punctuation so manners doesn't stand a chance. I also agree that the computer does add a barrier to the whole thing when in person thank you and you're welcome takes a second and online it can take 3 days.

I'm one of the few that actually use proper English and correct spelling in my text messages, I figure if someone else reads them I don't want them to think I'm uneducated. :biggrin:

I taught Language Arts, I have a masters in Reading Education, and I text in complete sentences. Sometimes I have to edit and correct texts I receive. It keeps me sane and freaks out the sender.:biggrin:

"Thank you" is a dieing courtesy. I had to explain manners to my 11 year old the other day. I did this after, once again, telling him to thank his mom, not speak with his mouth full, and chew with his mouth closed. What the heck happens to boys as they hit the "tween" years. Ugh!

 

[monark88]

Because of this problem with emails, texting, and other non personal communication, some medical schools have begun requiring incoming students to take a course in personal communication. Our young people just have not learned how to communicate beyond the computer.

I agree with you on all points. I cringe inward, but rarely say anything outside my close family when a miscue is made in writing or speaking. With the computer there's little excuse in not spelling a word correctly. My opinion only.

Russ

 

[Scruffy]

Marla, I've found that there is on ..

this forum (IAP) much more civil interaction than I have found else where on the net. In general, I have found social interaction at stores, business, on the street, driving is much worse. I think over the last 5-10 years that people have gotten bad. Respect for others has all but disappeared, especially in the recent years.

But, I think you are correct to bring it up. Maybe if people are more aware of others, rather than self focused they will make life easier for everyone.

Thank you for making people aware.

 

[Curly]

What the heck happens to boys as they hit the "tween" years. Ugh!

I think it because giving a judicious and deserved smack on the "tween" to get their undivided attention stopped a while back. :wink:

 

[CharlesJohnson]

If I miss saying thank you it is an over sight. I'm sorry. Please know that I mean to. Thanks cost me nothing. But it may Give a smile from being appreciated. We have a good many similar words just as valuable. I have found any smile (happiness) I can help some one have is the same many times over in the bank for me. That is not a reason to do this. This is a responsibility. But try as I may, I can't catch up. Though of course it is not all ways nice things I hear. But the good so out shines the bad. Yes ,some times I am concerned that with all the posts, PM's,emails our helpers are dealing with I may just be adding to their load. But I "KNOW" they deserve and need to hear I appreciate you. In what ever words I might use. Thank you very much management for making spell check so convenient. Without it I would be the worst speller we have. As might be obvious from the times I forget.This is 1 I have wanted to give a lot sooner. Lets continue to have lots of fun in this addiction.

 

[islandturner]

Marla, Congratulations on this -- a truly compassionate profession. I wish you every success at it. Steve

 

[Smitty37]

I'm curious, what ever happened to manners? You know, just a simple "thanks". I'm very grateful for all the help I've received over the time on this forum and when asked a question by private message I always reply. Just a simple acknowledgement for the time I took to answer would be nice.

Hmm, just checked my e-mails to verify, but I did say thanks for all the help. But let me say thanks in advance for the answers to future questions I will no doubt ask. :biggrin:

You graduated? Congratulations!

Thanks! I went back to school and took nursing. I'm a practical nurse, I think in the US I would be a vocational nurse.

In my reckless youth here in the USA we had Registered Nurses and Practical Nurses. Now I think there might be several varieties rather than just two.

On another note, I also attempt to use correct grammer and spelling in my posts and in e-mails. Sometimes I am more successful than others, but I try. Spelling is a bit of a problem but I do try to look up words that I'm not sure about.

I usually try to say thank you when someone does something for me or answers a question. It just seems, the right thing to do.

 

[seamus7227]

What the heck happens to boys as they hit the "tween" years. Ugh!

I think it because giving a judicious and deserved smack on the "tween" to get their undivided attention stopped a while back. :wink:

WOW! Now that there is SO true! Whatever happened to a good ol' spankin!:biggrin: I sure got plenty in my day and I turned out ok......well, I think so:beat-up:LOL

 

[stonepecker]

Cricket,
I don't blame their parents. But even you can understand that raising 2 - 3 - 0r more .....all of them (siblings) will develope their own ways. Some being very polite and some with no manners at all.
Your are right.....but being responsible for ones actions means that the person is responsibile in the first place.
Being what is now called a 'senior'......I still open the door for everyone I think is either older then myself or is a female. Being polite is suppost to be a part of a persons childhood training. Sadly, some people forget, as they get older.

 

[turncrazy43]

Marla, it is that Thank you, Please and the like seem to be disappearing in our everyday interactions. Hope your comments shake some people up and remind us that such words can have great meaning to the receiver. Congrats on the graduation. Your service is so essential and vastly under appreciated in this world. Your dedication and compassion will be rewarded. Best of luck.

 

[GaryMGg]

Guess I really take the cake 'cause I had to look this up as I thought it's incorrect.
According the my sources, it's still a dying courtesy!
Oh, and.....





You're welcome :biggrin: :biggrin: :biggrin:

I partly blame texting because a fair number of people that text can't even be bothered to use correct spelling and punctuation so manners doesn't stand a chance. I also agree that the computer does add a barrier to the whole thing when in person thank you and you're welcome takes a second and online it can take 3 days.

I'm one of the few that actually use proper English and correct spelling in my text messages, I figure if someone else reads them I don't want them to think I'm uneducated. :biggrin:

I taught Language Arts, I have a masters in Reading Education, and I text in complete sentences. Sometimes I have to edit and correct texts I receive. It keeps me sane and freaks out the sender.:biggrin:

"Thank you" is a dieing courtesy. I had to explain manners to my 11 year old the other day. I did this after, once again, telling him to thank his mom, not speak with his mouth full, and chew with his mouth closed. What the heck happens to boys as they hit the "tween" years. Ugh!

 

[butchf18a]

dieing?

I partly blame texting because a fair number of people that text can't even be bothered to use correct spelling and punctuation so manners doesn't stand a chance. I also agree that the computer does add a barrier to the whole thing when in person thank you and you're welcome takes a second and online it can take 3 days.

I'm one of the few that actually use proper English and correct spelling in my text messages, I figure if someone else reads them I don't want them to think I'm uneducated. :biggrin:

I taught Language Arts, I have a masters in Reading Education, and I text in complete sentences. Sometimes I have to edit and correct texts I receive. It keeps me sane and freaks out the sender.:biggrin:

"Thank you" is a dieing courtesy. I had to explain manners to my 11 year old the other day. I did this after, once again, telling him to thank his mom, not speak with his mouth full, and chew with his mouth closed. What the heck happens to boys as they hit the "tween" years. Ugh!

dieing means: To cut, form, or stamp with or as if with a die.
dyeing means to stain something with color,
dying is the gerund/verb form of to die? It follows a general rule of forming gerunds:

The vowel group -ie is changed to -y before adding -ing.
​

 

[Smitty37]

It Takes A Village.....

This is a society issue. When I was growing up I was taught to trust, listen to and respect adults - even strangers. Generally speaking I was taught to obey instructions from adults (with some exceptions - like if an adult told me to throw a rock through someone's window I could refuse).

Now children are taught to fear adults that they don't know and to be very careful around adults that they do know. They are also taught that they don't need to obey instructions from adults, except those who are authority figures. It is very difficut to learn manners, when you are not required to use them in most situations.

This is not intended to lay blame or invoke political discussion. It is simply saying that like it or not (and I tend to not like it a whole lot) the nation - perhaps the whole world is changed.

 

[its_virgil]

Thanks Marla, just in case I'm guilty.:biggrin: I have to agree with you. I too get several emails asking for help. Most are quick to send a thank you. But then some never a thanks.

How often has someone posted a question, received several answers and never acknowledged or thanked those who replied? In fact, the original post asking the question is often the only post made by the OP in the thread. How difficult is a simple thank you?

Do a good turn daily!
Don

 

[dogcatcher]

I saw this somewhere today on the Internet, and thought about the horrible English I see daily on the various sites I visit.

Thanks to the teachers that instilled in me a love of English, I am now perpetually mortified when reading the Internet.

 

[theidlemind]

Uh Oh :redface:
Was it me?
Even if it wasn't, I'd like to publicly thank you for inspiring me and steering me in the right direction in casting.
You and your feathers and paper.........

 

[lorbay]

What the heck happens to boys as they hit the "tween" years. Ugh!

I think it because giving a judicious and deserved smack on the "tween" to get their undivided attention stopped a while back. :wink:

WOW! Now that there is SO true! Whatever happened to a good ol' spankin!:biggrin: I sure got plenty in my day and I turned out ok......well, I think so:beat-up:LOL

OMG where have you Been that is so barbaric that is unheard of today. Lol
You know I turned out ok too regardless of the strap even at school, we need those days back.
Lin

 

[navycop]

I agree... It would be nice to receive a thank you or even thanks in person. My coworkers ask me a question/for my help.. Do I get a "thanks"-NOPE...

PS Happy belated Birthday Marla...

 

[Ambidex]

Manners

I totally agree with you Marla. It amazes me when I get a strange look for holding a door for someone, say please and thank you, or any other simple manners that were taught to me when young. They really don't take much effort and show you care about others feelings.

 

[Haynie]

What the heck happens to boys as they hit the "tween" years. Ugh!

I think it because giving a judicious and deserved smack on the "tween" to get their undivided attention stopped a while back. :wink:

I got a few smacks and I still did it at that age. Last night a friend of mine said "stick to your guns, hold him to high expectations, beat your head against the wall, and when he is about 25 he might start to understand."

 

[Haynie]

Guess I really take the cake 'cause I had to look this up as I thought it's incorrect.
According the my sources, it's still a dying courtesy!
Oh, and.....





You're welcome :biggrin: :biggrin: :biggrin:

I partly blame texting because a fair number of people that text can't even be bothered to use correct spelling and punctuation so manners doesn't stand a chance. I also agree that the computer does add a barrier to the whole thing when in person thank you and you're welcome takes a second and online it can take 3 days.

I'm one of the few that actually use proper English and correct spelling in my text messages, I figure if someone else reads them I don't want them to think I'm uneducated. :biggrin:

I taught Language Arts, I have a masters in Reading Education, and I text in complete sentences. Sometimes I have to edit and correct texts I receive. It keeps me sane and freaks out the sender.:biggrin:

"Thank you" is a dieing courtesy. I had to explain manners to my 11 year old the other day. I did this after, once again, telling him to thank his mom, not speak with his mouth full, and chew with his mouth closed. What the heck happens to boys as they hit the "tween" years. Ugh!

Good catch. :biggrin: I wondered if anyone would mention it.

 

[Haynie]

I partly blame texting because a fair number of people that text can't even be bothered to use correct spelling and punctuation so manners doesn't stand a chance. I also agree that the computer does add a barrier to the whole thing when in person thank you and you're welcome takes a second and online it can take 3 days.

I'm one of the few that actually use proper English and correct spelling in my text messages, I figure if someone else reads them I don't want them to think I'm uneducated. :biggrin:

I taught Language Arts, I have a masters in Reading Education, and I text in complete sentences. Sometimes I have to edit and correct texts I receive. It keeps me sane and freaks out the sender.:biggrin:

"Thank you" is a dieing courtesy. I had to explain manners to my 11 year old the other day. I did this after, once again, telling him to thank his mom, not speak with his mouth full, and chew with his mouth closed. What the heck happens to boys as they hit the "tween" years. Ugh!

dieing means: To cut, form, or stamp with or as if with a die.
dyeing means to stain something with color,
dying is the gerund/verb form of to die? It follows a general rule of forming gerunds:

The vowel group -ie is changed to -y before adding -ing.
​

:biggrin:

 

[Mack C.]

I'm curious, what ever happened to manners? You know, just a simple "thanks". I'm very grateful for all the help I've received over the time on this forum and when asked a question by private message I always reply. Just a simple acknowledgement for the time I took to answer would be nice.

Feeling somewhat grouchy today, Honey!:laugh::laugh::laugh:

I know what you mean. I keep a list of those people to be sure I don't do anything for them ever again! (just kidding!)

 

[skiprat]

I know exactly how you feel Marla. I asked almost the same question not so long ago in this thread. There were some interesting replies.
But unfortunately, some people still need reminding now and then, so thanks for bringing it up again.:biggrin:
We'll learn 'em yet!!!:biggrin:

 

[Curly]

Feeling somewhat grouchy today, Honey!:laugh::laugh::laugh:

I know what you mean. I keep a list of those people to be sure I don't do anything for them ever again! (just kidding!)

Wow!!! Mack has a 'naughty or nice' list!