OK, I wasn't going to get in on this, but......... IMHO, when you make it official with someone, you got to remember that it doesn't suddenly become 2 personalities. It becomes 3, "your", "her", and the new one that begins to develop that becomes "US". It goes way beyond thinking about the other one's feelings. To be sure That has to be, but its much more.
Its the middle ground, as it were, where you think and act on what the other person's needs are. Giving and taking what she/he gives. Helping out with what the other one desires are, if they want.
Sylvia just spent 5 hours in the garage, helping me organize stuff, without complaining. I didn't ask for the help, but she offered it.
This kind of rambling, I know, but kind of tired after today's work. My wife and I are working on 49 Years.
Russ
Oh well, y'had to go an do it - get all 'smushy' and 'touchy-feely' and all, like *real* and stuff, when we wuz juss havin' us all a good naughty-boy giggle and such <sigh... >
',;~}~ (to anyone wondering what that <there to the left is that I keep
typing in posts, well it's what my face looks like when I'm grinning, but laid sideways LOL)
My good lady wife and I 'knew' each other the
minute we met - instant punch line to each other's jokes. Finishing each other's sentences. We were of 'a' mind, and we found we loved so many of the same things.
It took us 3 years of marriage before we had our first argument of any kind, and not because those years had been easy, either, and in fact this last decade since we were married has been the hardest decade of either of our lives by a far reach.
We are both each other's rocks and each other's wings.
Our similarities bond us so solidly, but our differences keep us each fascinated with and by the other.
We don't need pedestals for each other - we adore each other with our feet on the ground.
We'd each give up anything we loved for the other, but the other would only hand it right back.
And yes
we are 3 - Her, and I, and Us, but there are no recognisable boundaries, no gaps in between.
More in love now than we ever were, and I would choose no one else to share all this with.
FACTS.
Of course it helps that she can take a punch <ducksarfc!>
',;~}~
FlowolF