My Dad passed away today.

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You would think that at almost 70, I would be ready for this, but it still came as a blow. He would have been 93 in May. We spent a really great day Sunday watching the NASCAR race "together" via cell phone. We would spend every Sunday visiting and watching the race together. It is a good memory to have for a last visit. He felt fine at the time, but when his brother couldn't reach him by phone, he went over to the house and found him. His greatest fear was that he would wind up in a hospital for weeks or months, slowly wasting away. In that sense, he died where and how he wanted. At home and quickly. But I surely do miss him already.

I'm leaving for OK tomorrow for a couple of weeks.

Sharon
 
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Sharon,
I am sorry for your loss. I don't think that we are ever ready and age makes no difference. I am glad that you have good memories as they will sustain you during the rough times. I hope that your trip home to OK is not too difficult for you. Take it easy and I wish you and your family lots of comfort and love during this time.
 
O God, Who hast commanded us to honour our father and our mother,
in Thy mercy have pity on the souls of my father and mother,
and forgive them their trespasses,
and make me to see them again in the joy of everlasting light.
Through Our Lord Jesus Christ, Thy Son,
Who liveth and reigneth with Thee in the unity of the Holy Ghost,
God, world without end.

Amen.
 
Sharon, what a blessing to have had your Dad for so many years and all the good memories - and he was spared the loss of his dignity in a nursing home or prolonged illness. He got what he wanted and I hope that brings you comfort until the loss is replaced with fond memories of the things you did together. In days to come, you will smile as you recognize things he did that live on in you, that you never noticed before.

Blessings to you and your family,
Harry
 
I feel your pain. When I lost my Dad almost 7 years ago it was like losing a friend, a mentor and most of all a parent that ment so much in my life. My condolences go out to you and no mater how old they were it is a loss that hurts. Remember the good times always. May God rest his soul.
 
You are so lucky to have him this long then he did not suffer like some do. Sorry for your loss. bob
 
Condolrnces- my DAd passed 20 years ago- Quickly, painlessly. even drove himself to the hospital in his beloved 64 Chevy station wagon. Strangely, the older I became, the smarter he became. So far I have outlived 2 of my 3 sons
 
My condolences Sharon, you'll fondly remember him while watching future races. And yes, thankfully it was quick, and that there was no long drawn out battle with cancer or some other problem. Take care.
Len
 
My dad passed in Nov of last year, and after 4 months of hospitals, and homes, as some can't be called nursing. He did it his way only cutting it a might close. He to wanted to die at home. We brought him home at 12:30pm on a Monday.

The fire dept pronounced him dead, at 4:15pm that afternoon. He is missed.

Sorry for your loss.
 
Sorry to hear of your loss. My dad died a few years ago. In his last years he and I made pens together. Went to shows and sold them. I still have a few that he made that I will never sell. Great memory keep them close.
 
Sharon,

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. From what you shared with us, it sounds like you were very blessed with a long and wonderful relationship with your father.

Take care and God Bless.

Jim Smith
 
AMEN !!, sorry for your loss

jimm1 said:
O God, Who hast commanded us to honour our father and our mother,
in Thy mercy have pity on the souls of my father and mother,
and forgive them their trespasses,
and make me to see them again in the joy of everlasting light.
Through Our Lord Jesus Christ, Thy Son,
Who liveth and reigneth with Thee in the unity of the Holy Ghost,
God, world without end.

Amen.
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Very sorry to hear this Sharon! It's never easy, but hope you can take some comfort in the fact he managed to live his final days on his own terms. Treasure your memories!
 
jimm1 said:
O God, Who hast commanded us to honour our father and our mother,
in Thy mercy have pity on the souls of my father and mother,
and forgive them their trespasses,
and make me to see them again in the joy of everlasting light.
Through Our Lord Jesus Christ, Thy Son,
Who liveth and reigneth with Thee in the unity of the Holy Ghost,
God, world without end.

Amen.
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Thank you. I will keep this a long time.

Sharon
 
plano_harry said:
Sharon, what a blessing to have had your Dad for so many years and all the good memories - and he was spared the loss of his dignity in a nursing home or prolonged illness. He got what he wanted and I hope that brings you comfort until the loss is replaced with fond memories of the things you did together. In days to come, you will smile as you recognize things he did that live on in you, that you never noticed before.

Blessings to you and your family,
Harry
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Sharon, I am deeply sorry about your loss. Don't think I can say what I'm thinking anywhere near as well as Harry did. I wish you peace. Russ
 
Thank you all. Yes, I was the original "daddy's girl." I was his shadow from the time I could walk. I have been making about 5 trips a year to OK to visit with him for the past few years. My mom died almost 40 years ago from an allergic reaction to a new arthritic drug. We grew even closer after her death.

He was mentally alert to the end, and was still driving (as well as I do!) and repairing antique clocks. For that I am truly thankful. I watched my mother in law slowly deteriorate with alzheimers. It nearly destroyed my husband when she no longer recognized him. We were spared that.

I've got an early flight, so I have to go. Again, thank you all. It helps.

Sharon
 
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