My dad is at the end with a turn for the worse.

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My thoughts and prayers go out to you this evening. I hope that your father is comfortable and that your family gathers strength and love from being together at this difficult time.
 
Sorry to hear this.


I am a retired RN worked Hospice for a long time Try to understand that if you have someone in Hospice they are there not to make them better but to help them and you prepare for what has to happen and that is never fun for anyone.

A Hospice Nurse should be up front with you. if you father is awake and with it so to speak he will deserve to understand what is happening to him so he cam prepare.


Please don't think this is unfeeling or that I do not understand what you are going though. My Mother passed from CA shortly after placed in Hospice. I myself have The same CA so I see it from both ways

When your father feels it is the right time, he will pass. It is hard but you need to tell him you love him and also let him know you will be ok and when he is ready he can let go. Do this even if he is not awake we still hear. and we will stay here is this place suffering longer if we feel we need to stay for or loved ones.

There ARE things worst then death. Help your Dad let go try to be there with him but know you are doing the right thing by keeping him home he needs to know he can go

Im am very sorry you have to do this I have been without both my folks since 91. Not a day goes by that I do not think of them. Now more than ever as my Circle closes I understand this is a journey we all have to take.
I pray God sends his Angels to cover you and your family with their wings during this your time of need.

Hess
 
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Curtis, Many prayers are being said for you and your family. I have been in your position three times in my life. Not my parents but other family members. It is very very difficult. Take care of yourself. Lots of unexpected results can crop up. If you ever need someone to just vent to. please do not be shy to bend my ear. I've been there and it is a rollercoaster.
 
Hess said:
Sorry to hear this.


I am a retired RN worked Hospice for a long time Try to understand that if you have someone in Hospice they are there not to make them better but to help them and you prepare for what has to happen and that is never fun for anyone.

A Hospice Nurse should be up front with you. if you father is awake and with it so to speak he will deserve to understand what is happening to him so he cam prepare.


Please don't think this is unfeeling or that I do not understand what you are going though. My Mother passed from CA shortly after placed in Hospice. I myself have The same CA so I see it from both ways

When your father feels it is the right time, he will pass. It is hard but you need to tell him you love him and also let him know you will be ok and when he is ready he can let go. Do this even if he is not awake we still hear. and we will stay here is this place suffering longer if we feel we need to stay for or loved ones.

There ARE things worst then death. Help your Dad let go try to be there with him but know you are doing the right thing by keeping him home he needs to know he can go

Im am very sorry you have to do this I have been without both my folks since 91. Not a day goes by that I do not think of them. Now more than ever as my Circle closes I understand this is a journey we all have to take.
I pray God sends his Angels to cover you and your family with their wings during this your time of need.

Hess
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Curtis,
I was going to try and offer some comfort, but I think Hess has said it best... we went through a similar situation when my mother in law passed a few years back... it was tough watching but in the end, was a good thing.. their pain and suffering passed and their life will be come peaceful again... I know you and your family are strong and will find peace again too.
 
Curtis,
We are so sorry for all you are going through. It's never an easy thing to loose a loved one. We will hold your family in our thoughts, hearts and prayers. If there is anything you need please don't hesitate to call.
 
My thoughts are with your family during these difficult days ahead. I've been thru this twice this past year and know what you are experiencing. Again, you have my blessings.

(The hospice nurse (who I think absolutely sucks with no compassion but that is a different topic) volunteered without us asking that it will only be 2 or 3 days.)

I know what you mean. You find some wonderfully compasionate ones and you find some, as you unfortunately have, that have been sensitised to family needs. They need to move on to another job. My family has experienced both kinds.Also in Doctors as well.

Don't let these people get you down.

Russ
 
My prayers and thoughts are with you my friend. If there's anything I can do, just call.
 
Sorry to hear this Curtis, I hope is passing is easy on him, I realize it will be hell on the rest of you, but best to remember the good moments and not see the hospital way of passing. My prayers are with you and your family.
 
Continued prayers are with you and your family Curtis. May his passing be easy and your family be comforted by the strength and memories you share.

Linda
 
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