My dad is at the end with a turn for the worse.

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MesquiteMan

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Sorry to bother you all again, especially with the bad news after my recent good news post. It was premature, unfortunately. Last night, my dad had a really bad night at home and had a number of seizures. This morning, my mom called and said that he was pretty much unresponsive and unable to stand or even sit up so she called in hospice.

I went over there and his is not doing well at all. He is pretty much unresponsive and just stares ahead with a very hollow look. He can move his arms around and occasionally will try to talk but not very much. He is also incontinent and his oxygen levels are 88% even with oxygen. His fever is back at 101 and the hospice nurse said his lungs sounded pretty bad. The hospice nurse (who I think absolutely sucks with no compassion but that is a different topic) volunteered without us asking that it will only be 2 or 3 days.

Obviously, he is at the end of his life and we are NOT taking him back to the hospital since there is nothing that they can do for him. I would ask for your thoughts and prayers this time that his passing can be quick and peaceful so he can end his suffering.

I will most likely not be on the forum much for the next few days so please don't think I am ignoring anyone if I am unable to reply to PMs, especially moderator related PMs.
 
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Curtis, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Don't worry about us here - nothing here is anywhere near as important as helping your family.
 
Sorry to hear, sadly I am all too familiar with this. We just lost our third parent to cancer on Sunday night.

You have to accept that he is out of pain, and off to a better place as he enters this phase.

God Bless

Sean
 
Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. I had Hospice care for my wife, please don't judge the nurses too harshly. They are among the most compassionate care givers that I have met. They just tell you the facts so you can prepare. God Bless and God Speed.
Russ
 
Prayer for you Curtis and your family. I'm very sorry to hear this about. Yes I also think Hospice is the best. My the Good Lord be with you and your family in the coming days to help each one of you through this very sad time. God Bless you all.
Take care of yourself Curtis.
 
Almighty and Everlasting God, preserver of souls, who dost correct those whom Thou dost love, and for their betterment dost tenderly chastise those whom Thou dost receive, we call upon Thee, O Lord, to grant Thy healing, that the soulof Thy servant, at the hour of its departure from the body, may by the hands of Thy holy Angels be presented without spot unto Thee. Amen.
 
Thanks everyone. I am at home right now getting some dinner and am about to head back over there. Fortunately, my parents only live a couple of miles away.

And just for the record, I agree that hospice is a great service and we had great experiences with my grandfather and then my step grandfather a few years ago. It is just this particular nurse that seemed in a hurry and not happy to be there on a a Saturday. She even went and got some drugs and brought them back. She just plopped them down on the table in a large white bag and told us what was in it and that was it. His fever was high and she knew it but did not even care enough to ask if we needed help inserting the tylenol suppository. She basically dropped the drugs off and left. We will see if she is any better tomorrow and if not, I will call the hospice director and request a different nurse.

Anyway, sorry for the rant on hospice. It was only a rant on this particular nurse. Hospice has been great for my family in the past. I am also on an emotional roller coaster so that could be part of it!
 
Curtis,
Recently went through this myself when I lost my Dad. I rejoice with you that your Dad understands that his future is secure. Hang on to the good memories.
 
I will pray

Curtis, I will pray for your dad. I know this is a hard time for you and your family and nothing I can say will make it better. God can help.
 
Curtis, sorry to hear of this news. I pray that if that's God is wish he would be great enough to make this transition easy on him. I know it's not easy to lose a loved ones, however we all have to go and join our creator. My thoughts and prayers go to him and you and your family in this time of trials. May god grant all of you strength to go forward and heal.
 
Curtis, my deepest sympathy to you and your family. As others have stated, remember the good times you had with your Dad. If anyone is upset that you are not responding to their request immediately they don't understand compassion.
 
Keeping you and your family in my prayers.
My Heavenly Father's comforting arms surround you and keep you moving forward.
 
You and your family are in my prayers. Always remember the good times you had with your dad, and never look back at the bad.. He will be all the woods workers with the unlimited supply of wood and tools.....
 
Curtis, I hope you and your family can feel the strength and peace in all the prayers on your behalf.
If you haven't already, give your Dad a big hug - he needs it and it will add much comfort to the last moments for both of you.
Gordon
 
Curtis! I know what you are going through.I lost my mother 4yrs ago to cancer and we kept her home and took care of her until the good lord came to get her.
our thoughts and prayers are with you and the family.
May God bless and see you through this.
JIM
 
Curtis,

I will keep you, your Dad and your family in my prayers. May the Lord of all look with compassion upon your Dad and your entire family in this time of need.

John
 
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