Randy,
My deepest condolenses to you and your family. I have been a Law Enforcemnent Officer for 33 years now. I have given messages like the one you got, more times than I ever care to recall. Even after delivering that news, I can not imagine what it would be like to receive it.
On the first shift of my career, I held the hand of a dying young man who was ejected from a car as he was distracted by the tape player in his vehicle. While texting is probably one of the most distracting things we deal with, multi-tasking while driving has been a problem since Henry Ford made his first car. Unforuantely, multi-tasking is a part of the human condition, we have all done it, some of us just got away with it.