Stain ...
Brian..
I used General Finishes, American Walnut. The way I made the choice was to talk to my daugther about the possible colors. Then finish two pieces of wood using diffenerent stains that were the result of the conversation.
Just two different stains... If I given three or more I would never have gotten a decision.
Also, I finished as I completed parts. I don't like to fight with finishing corners and edges on completed projects. I don't do well. Especially when I use raised panels drawer fronts.
Hope this helps.