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Can you please explain to me why teenage girls are such butts to each other. My wife says it's a girl thing. I mean they are not talking to each other one day and talking behind each others backs, the next day it's all better till the next time.

Example... my 17 year old and her "best friend" have been having "issues". What it all stemmed from and I am sure there is more to the story is the other girl stood my daughter up one weekend after they made plans. Then all was better and the other girl did this 2 more weekends in a row. So my daughter and the other were talking trash to other friends. Then all of sudden it's like nothing ever happened. Now, the prom is coming up. They all had their plans together except tonight the other girl (with her parents help I am sure, I work with the father) has decided she got a better offer with some other girls (the higher income bracket). My wife calls her mother to see what they all want to eat before prom (restraunt) and the mother decides to tell my wife that her daughter has made other plans and won't be coming. First words we heard about it. So now the wifes pissed.

Sorry this is so long, but my lands where does it end.
 
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Originally posted by Dan_F

It ends when your daughter has had enough, and finds another friend who is worthy of her trust.

Dan
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Good point and I agree, Dan. When your daughter gets tired of being treated this way, she will find a new friend, hopefully. Your wife is right, Dustin, it's a teenage thing, been there done that. My best advice to you as parents is STAY OUT OF IT. I learned this a long time ago. While I gave my daughter advice when she would ask, I stayed out of any situation unless someone was getting physically hurt. I have watched parents intercede on their girls behalf and end up pi$$ed at each, meanwhile the kids are friends again a few minutes or days while your sitting there still mad. I hope she figures out this friend really isn't and sounds very superficially. Good luck!
 
I think they are doing exactly what they are supposed to be doing at that age. It's a time when everything is upside down for girls because their hormones have been active for a while - and some girls(& boy) have a hard time dealing with the new feelings and emotions. Small things suddenly become big, big things strangely enough are sometimes small. Your daughter will figure it out as she learns what boundaries are, where hers are, and how to use them. It will probably take the other girl a whole lot longer given her family background.

I think boys go through the same thing but later - and it's usually with girls not other boys.

Yup, I am one of the oldest of 10 siblings and now 22 neices and nephews and 2 great nieces. See it time and again.
 
As the father of a 17 year old son, I can assure you that boys go through some of this too, but from what I've observed, girls tend to be more vicious towards one another. I remember this from high school too. If two boys had a disagreement they usually slugged it out. That wasn't acceptable for girls, so they resorted to behind the back attacks on each other. Somewhere around 18-19 they usually seem to have left that idiocy behind.

Also, as a an old high school friend told me once, "High school is where you can practice being what you don't want to be when you grow up."
 
I have three teenage children ( 2 boys and a girl) and can assure you that it is not limited to the girls!!!![B)]

Even still, my kids and their friends are not as fickle as some of the adults I know!!!!!:(
 
I've always felt that the way to end the Iraq war is to send over a bunch of teenage girls having a bad hair day.....

Seriously, before my daughter went into the Marines (at 17), she was the typical teenage girl described above. After boot camp I saw a major difference in her attitude concerning just about everything. After a lot of talking I realized what she had now was the confidence that she didn't have before. She's stationed about 90 minutes from us and gets to come home on most weekends. When she is here she rarely hangs out with her old friends because she feels they are too "juvenile". She enjoys time with the family now, making dinners AND cleaning up. Yes her room here still looks like a tornado went through it. But if I every needed body armor or other assorted military doodads, I'd only have to check her floor.

Now if I could get her to bring home some 7.62mm and 50cal casings, life would be good.
 
You are all missing the point. I do not have any children (yet, we got one in the oven:D:D:D:D:D) but the answer is simple.

<h1>TEACH THEM HOW TO MAKE PENS, THEY WON'T HAVE TIME TO FIGHT NOR MONEY TO GO TO THE PROM </h1>
 
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