tbroye
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This afternoon my wife start down a new path in our live. Her 96 year old mother is coming to live with us. This came about last Sunday after Church, my wife hadn't been able to get a hold of her sister or mother in a couple of weeks. Her youngest sister lives in the family home supposedly taking care of Grandma. We have had issues with this arrangement before but no one did anything even the County didn't find a problem so legally we couldn't do any thing. The place is pile of crap, smells the whole nine yards hoarding everything and then being evasive and lies when questioned.
Wife went over and found the sister has manage to loose the house to Foreclosure. This house was paid off in 1967 her mom and dad worked hard to pay if off, he died in 1971 so the house was free and clear. The auction is October 14 TH, she say she is going to file Chap 13 don't know if she can save. We think she has commingle he mother assets into her accounts so Grandma has neither other than SS however much that will be. My wife and her other sister will be going thought process of gaining legal control of Grandma and what ever assets she has left. No one knew that Jane had gotten power of Attorney or that the house was put in her name years ago. At one time there as a number of CD accounts and other saving left by the husband for Grandma and the rest would be divided among the kids including the house when Grandma was gone.
I am 70 my wife is 66 and we had never thought of this happening. So we start down new path, our home is big enough and we are stable enough financially that we can take this on. Don't know of all the change we will have to make but we will change as needed.
At least Grandma will be going to church with us on Sunday and start seeing her old friends that are left. She is in reasonable health for 96 and does have some memory loss especially short term, she know us and the grandkids but not the great grand kid, We are hoping a change in environment will help regain some things and keep her stimulated and challenged. She will not be sitting in he chair in corner knitting nothing but squares not going to happen. Saturday, clothes shopping and a hair do for church. Sunday a party at my sisters, next Tuesday senior exercise at church and bible sturdy. She want to reach 100 so we are going to help her. there have been allot of nasty joke about mother in law, but Grandma has alway treated me like a son, so this is the least I can do for her. The sister is on her own she has alienated the whole family over the years so she will have deal with things herself. She has many issues and have been the therapy, the only person who has benefited is the therapist. I will keep you posted as we start down this new path in life.
Wife went over and found the sister has manage to loose the house to Foreclosure. This house was paid off in 1967 her mom and dad worked hard to pay if off, he died in 1971 so the house was free and clear. The auction is October 14 TH, she say she is going to file Chap 13 don't know if she can save. We think she has commingle he mother assets into her accounts so Grandma has neither other than SS however much that will be. My wife and her other sister will be going thought process of gaining legal control of Grandma and what ever assets she has left. No one knew that Jane had gotten power of Attorney or that the house was put in her name years ago. At one time there as a number of CD accounts and other saving left by the husband for Grandma and the rest would be divided among the kids including the house when Grandma was gone.
I am 70 my wife is 66 and we had never thought of this happening. So we start down new path, our home is big enough and we are stable enough financially that we can take this on. Don't know of all the change we will have to make but we will change as needed.
At least Grandma will be going to church with us on Sunday and start seeing her old friends that are left. She is in reasonable health for 96 and does have some memory loss especially short term, she know us and the grandkids but not the great grand kid, We are hoping a change in environment will help regain some things and keep her stimulated and challenged. She will not be sitting in he chair in corner knitting nothing but squares not going to happen. Saturday, clothes shopping and a hair do for church. Sunday a party at my sisters, next Tuesday senior exercise at church and bible sturdy. She want to reach 100 so we are going to help her. there have been allot of nasty joke about mother in law, but Grandma has alway treated me like a son, so this is the least I can do for her. The sister is on her own she has alienated the whole family over the years so she will have deal with things herself. She has many issues and have been the therapy, the only person who has benefited is the therapist. I will keep you posted as we start down this new path in life.
