So, woodturnerswonders is a great company who carries numerous cbn wheels.
While they are heavier, the newer style aluminum ones aren't too bad.
They come in all sorts of grits and profiles. You can get flat, narrow style like your current white, stone wheels or get ones with a radius edge. They also have ones that have a flat area on the side of the wheel. The only hiccup is sometimes your platform won't be wide enough for the larger ones.
I've had 2 cbn wheels on my rikon grinder, I believe it is a 1/2 horse, for years with out issue.
The rikon 3/4 grinder with 2 cbn wheels is a nice platform and quite useful.
I like the mega square wheels, they are 1.5 inches wide and dont have a radius edge.
I would go with an 80 grit for shaping and rough profiling and a 320 for touchups.
You may also want to invest in a decent platform. I really like the Stewart Batty ones (sbtools) (I think they are still made). You can get them in either free standing or ones that fit the wolverine style system.
If you use a jig for sharpening, you can't beat the varigrind from wolverine.
I also really like the raptor setup gauges, however sbtools has a nice set too.