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Old 07-04-2014, 12:56 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Default My "helper" is down...!

Hi peoples,

Recently I have seen some agonizing threads from IAP friends, having their wife's going through some bad times, and today after I read the good news about Curtis' wife, I started feeling really bad about the fact that, my my wife Merissa, is also experiencing some bad times, she can't walk (right left knee and muscle troubles, and her hands are all swollen with lumps and plenty of pain.

This has been going on for over 2 months, and test so far indicate that most of it is coming from some damage cause in her spine from an bike accident she had when a young girl.

A few people know about it and I felt that, I was not doing her "justice" by not dedication my own thread about her condition and difficulties, when in reality, she was the only person to be by my side throughout all my attempts to salvage/cut/gather and bring the wood home/storage paddock...!

I have constantly mention her as my "helper" as she is a country girl, a lot younger than me, built strong and used to hard work. When me met 14 years ago, I was still working hard and very agile but that all changed a few short years later, as I was expecting.

Merissa became my right hand on everything, we are together 24/7 and we share the good and bad moments however, I/we didn't know that she was carrying spine problems and other complications from that accident and other damages caused from the extreme hard work she done for years, before we met, Merissa is now 41 years old...!

Since we moved here, to this beautiful part of South Australia, I explained to her how important would be that we could gather as much wood as we could, not only as firewood but also for woodworking stock, that I starting to use as my woodturning hobby.

I was using a lot of wood then, as I got into making big bowls and other big pieces, was normal to bring 1 tonne (trailer full) of wood home and in a single week I would have it all cut up and turned into green turned pieces and put away for drying, bags and bags of shavings and sawdust come out of that little woodturning room, every week, crazy stuff...!

I could not have done half of all that work without Merissas' help and quite often, I shared this though and pics of her working/helping me out with the woods.

In the workshop, she is always doing something, keeping the floor walkable, bin boxes emptied, do some pen blanks sanding, marking and waxing, amongst other stuff, including doing all the Post Office parcels posting, every morning...!

We both had our both hands operated on (Carpal Tunnel), in recent times and since she experience some major troubles with her right knee that decided to stop working. Since then she recovered from that but never fully, she would lose her balance and fall without warning.

Merissa is not exactly a "small" girl with a big bone structure so, falling down hard a few far too many times, didn't help her much, in fact, we think that, some of the problems were cause from a fall she had last year where she landed on top of sharp pointed wood, on her hip and back...!

These last two months, Merissa hardly can walk, she can't stand up for more than a couple of minutes and her hands started to hurt, get swollen and lumpy, something that we still not know what is causing it.

Merissa done a lot of test recently but, none has produce new results, apart from those already know, mainly from her spine, she done some more test very recently and will only know the results, next Wednesday when we both see our GP/ doctor, strong pain killers can only do so much so, we hope that her situation will be able to improve as soon as the doctors have something to work with...!

Once again, I feel that Merissa deserves to have a thread dedicated to her, many of you have received the results of her work also so, is only fair that she gets the recognition she deserves...!

We are not religious but we accept other peoples beliefs, we do believe in "Karma" though, we reckon that, what goes around, goes comes around and in certain occasions, in more ways than one...!

I feel a little better now...!

"Don't give others what you don't like for yourself"


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George, prayers are being sent your way for Merissa and you both. Hopefully, you'll get some of the answers to the questions that your looking for on wednesday. While reading this post I got to thinking what would I do if my wife were to ever get desperately ill, I would be lost and afraid especially, if there were no answers to what the problem was. Please take care, and keep us informed of her diagnosis.
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Best wishes to Merissa and you George. I'm hoping for a speedy diagnosis and recovery for her.
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Old 07-04-2014, 03:34 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Marla and I wish the best outcome for your helper, and you too.
Proud to be the support staff and enabler of Marla Christensen.
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Old 07-04-2014, 03:39 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Wishing you both all the best!
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Chin up young man...prayers for both of you!
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Old 07-04-2014, 04:30 AM   #7 (permalink)
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I can easily sense the strong bond that exists between you two. It is real tough to see your "other half" having to deal with severely limiting circumstances, and so I wish the best for you both. I hope the awaited medical news is good, that she can look forward to some real improvement. Hang in there, and keep looking for the bright is there somewhere.
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Old 07-04-2014, 07:05 AM   #8 (permalink)
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Thanks friends,

I believe she will feel overwhelmed by your thoughts and words, she is not a computer person, I tried, didn't work, Merissa is happy that I take care of that side of things however, that makes her miss out on this way of communication that can really become like, being in a big room and conversing with everyone however, I don't mind so much when she misses out on some less friendly "conversations that so often, come and rock the boat.

Anyway, Merissa will be reading all and every one of the posts left for her, I'm sure that will put a smile in her face, that good enough for me...!

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Old 07-04-2014, 07:11 AM   #9 (permalink)
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Sounds like ruptured disks, not seen on x-rays. An MRI can show the problem and suggest solutions.
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Old 07-04-2014, 07:25 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Will keep her and you in my thoughts and prayers that the doctors can find and fix the problem.
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