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Old 09-16-2012, 05:36 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Forum Decorum

Greetings IAP friends!

From my own observations of recent postings, and conversations with members, I've concluded that it's time for a reminder about "decorum on the forum". Dictionaries define "decorum" as; dignified propriety of behavior, speech, dress, etc. We don't care what you're wearing when you visit (!!), but we do care that you conduct yourself in a polite, respectful, and pleasant manner. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect good behavior.

My expectations aside, the letter of the law in this corner of the Internet is in our AUP, wherein you will find "No personal attacks: Criticize ideas, not people. Flaming will not be tolerated. Broad, negative statements about individuals or businesses are not permitted."

Please consider the following as you enjoy participating in our discussions:

Think before you post: Would you want to read what you've written if it was directed at you?

Disagree without being disagreeable: We like spirited discussion, but if your "spirit" is to tear others down while you build yourself up, or you believe you've got the only right answer, you're part of the problem. You can either trim up your sails, or head your boat in a different direction. There are plenty of forums out there which welcome nasty behavior, and this is not one of them.

Choose your words carefully: The word "idiot" has been used at least twice in the last week from two separate members describing other members. I've deleted posts, asked nicely for a change in approach, and warned. My fuse is getting short in this area, as I believe this sort of nasty behavior is causing some members, especially new ones, not to participate. As my dear, departed dad used to tell me when I was doing something that was sure to annoy my mom; "A word to the wise is sufficient."

Your "facts" may not be other's facts: Unless you are discussing the principles of chemistry or physics, most conversation is opinion. Give yours, but unless you can write an equation to prove the other guy wrong, let his opinion stand as well. Sorry to be nerdy about this point, but you get my meaning.

Thanks for your help in making the IAP the most enjoyable community on the Internet.
Jeff Brown in Westlake, Ohio, USA

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Old 09-16-2012, 06:20 PM   #3 (permalink)
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This is the best forum on the web and will remain so as long as as the above rules are followed.
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Old 09-17-2012, 02:11 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Jeff the only Idiot I refer to as an Idiot is ME.
And this still is the best forum around, used to be a bit better but with the membership doubling and then some since I signed on in 07 I think things are amazingly smooth.
We've lost some Great members through their choice or various reasons, but it's still a wonderful bunch of people!!
Thanks for doing this for us..
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Old 09-17-2012, 02:46 PM   #5 (permalink)
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This is a freindly well informed forum with pen turners world wide ,lets be respectful to one another
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Old 09-17-2012, 07:56 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Old 09-17-2012, 08:10 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I have read a few post lately where members bash others and I feel it is uncalled for....Just my $.02 worth.

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Old 09-17-2012, 08:16 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Nikitas View Post
I have read a few post lately where members bash others and I feel it is uncalled for....Just my $.02 worth.
Unfortunately there has been too much lately. It's a shame that Jeff has had to step in and even write the above. Hopefully, it will be a wake up call for those who can't play nice.
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Old 09-17-2012, 08:26 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Nikitas View Post
People who die with the most toys, is still dead.....
Ya know, with an attitude like that--you're not going to make friends and influence people
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Old 09-17-2012, 08:36 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by GaryMGg View Post
Originally Posted by Nikitas View Post
People who die with the most toys, is still dead.....
Ya know, with an attitude like that--you're not going to make friends and influence people
Possibly so, however he is still right. That goes along with, "Win the Rat Race, OK, but you are still a Rat." PLEASE, I BEG ALL, NOTHING PERSONELL HERE!

Thank you Jeff for working to keep this forum a fun and great place to visit.
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