I have been workin on ebonizing an oak blank, thought i would share my progress, maybe failure.
Mate, I can see what went wrong and I can tell you that, you can do a lot better than that, I know...!
The steel wool removed the colour and that was expected as you didn't seal the wood after you put the colour.
I have made a thread not that long ago where, I have "ebonized" a piece of one of the last woods I gather, the #81 Eucalyptus Dura.
I decided to show how easy and identical this wood look to the pure black ebony, I used a black permanent ink marker, dry it by rubbing friction (burnishing) and then, applied CA. If the wood was rougher, I would give it a thin coat of CA after the colour, sand it with a fine grit and apply more CA coats.
Sand that Oak, as fine as you can before you use the black marker, you will find that, but burnishing the ink from the marker, the wood will polish itself and you will need no sanding before you apply the CA.
Have a look
here...!
Cheers
George